Posts tagged ‘Islam’

March 13, 2014

Who are the people of Taqwa? (Muttaqin)

by Khanum

1-Those who spend in the way of Allah

2- Those who observe patience and control their anger

3- And those who forgive others out of Love for Allah and in hope to attain His pleasure and Mercy

Assalam o alaikum everyone! Happy fajr and Good morning!

None of the qualities mentioned above are easy to acquire. Especially the 3rd characteristic. How can you forgive someone so easily who has inflicted pain upon you with purpose and aim. People who have wronged us can’t be forgiven so easily. We want Allah to deal with them severely and some of us possibly want Allah to throw them in the hell fire. It’s definitely not an easy task to forgive those who deserve punishment. But what’s even harder is to forgive one’s own self for the sins committed.

How do we do that?

I was up all night and was surfing the internet for some French and Arabic  learning material , I would say half of the night was spent aimlessly, just wandering the streets of internet , but then I came across something useful. I came across Kalamullah site. It’s one great source for Islamic learning. I honestly have used this link for my exams preparation in the past as well. 2 hours ago, I was guided by Allah to watch Nouman Ali Khan’s absolutely emaan packed Khutbah at that website. Who are the people of Taqwa? (Muttaqin)

I cannot explain to you how beautifully Allah speaks to us when we are down, lost and drenched in sins without even being aware of it. He speaks to us even then, in that state of tattered emaan and uplifts our spirits. I almost wept at the concluding part of this khutbah. It feels like this is you, your sins and your story on the table Allah is referring to and trying to console you through this speaker in the video. SubhanAllah! Even if we all gathered together to find peace in this world on our own, we wouldn’t be able to acquire it fully, for the peace given by Allah to His slaves when they remember Him is something incomparable. You find true peace only when you’re re-united with Allah  after doing something bad and repenting on it.

I recommend anyone reading this post, do listen to this 30 minutes and 54 seconds khutbah.

May Allah help us forgive ourselves, forgive others and surrender our hearts to Allah so we can be forgiven by Allah Almighty in return as well. That’s the key I guess, We should let go off our anger and hurt for Allah’s sake. For Allah’s sake alone.

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December 14, 2013

” You need to stay positive, Sir. Don’t freak out! “, Said Oxytocin

by Khanum

New Revelation in stress science. That Oxytocin!

The cuddling hormone released when you hug someone – often known as love hormone, the agent in sexual reproduction is actually not just a emo hormone, its practically your savior from stress. It’s also deals with stress.

Here’s how.

I just came across a very interesting thing this morning. A research in science which points out how the phrase “stress is bad for you” is actually the cause of many deaths and not the fact that you’re a stress patient. Confused? Lemme simplify it for you.

In very plain language it just means that stressing about “stress” is the main problem for your health. Otherwise, having a stress disorder and being positive about it instead of freaking out is what keeps you normal. And not just THAT – but also, dealing with it the positive way , meaning: Believing that stress is literally good for you, actually makes stress good for your health. It won’t harm you if you become friends with it and let it flow in your system. That sounds risky, han? But that’s the truth.

It becomes helpful when you embrace your stress and in return it makes you social. At least it demand of you to become social as a natural defence mechanism against bad health but if you don’t answer to its call by not reaching out to people and go for human bonding. That’s where and how you’re letting your stress kill you. You gotta love it well.

Long scientific story short. Oxytocin is actually not just a cute hormone but a stress hormone which is released when you are under stress as a (Body’s Natural Defense Mechanism) It begins to flow in you and makes you yearn for affection and help.Yeah. That explains why we badly want somebody around or near us to listen to our anxieties and worries when we are stressed. Letting it all out eventually cures us of bad mental health. Next time when it happens, know that its oxytocin telling you to reach out and talk to people when under stress.

Now that you know , stress can be handled as a positive force for your body, you’ll find this hormone helping you tremendously when you help it by doing exactly what its wants you to do. This was just one part I learned. What’s even more cool about this is the part where I translated this research into what Islam teaches us to do about stress. It gives us Exactly the same practical strategy to deal with it.

Oxytocin/Patience: A Mediator of Anti Stress!

And endure patiently, your patience is not but from Allah. (16:127)

So wait with patience for the Decision of your Lord, and be not like the Companion of the Fish – when he cried out (to Us) while he was in deep sorrow. (68:48)

Oh you who believe! Seek help with patient perseverance and prayer, for God is with those who patiently persevere.  2: 153

And my favourite ayah of all. “And be patient. Surely, Allah is with those who are patient.”  (8:46)  وَاصْبِرُوا ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ

Patience (sabr) is often a word misunderstood as an act which is weakening and those of who are weak. In short, if you’re are scared of something and can’t deal with it, you just say I’m trying to do sabr. I’m trying to be patient.

Is that true? Is that what patience really is? oh yeah?

Well guess what! Here’s the new cool definition for Patience: “It’s the cool act on the block that keeps you positive and head strong!”

 So when wiki says “Patience is the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.” I say is, you’re totally underestimating this word. When in reality, This word is the synonym for positivity.

Patience is that strong positive attribute and force you can develop inside you that practically makes you 1000 times stronger in front of your anxieties, worries and every type of enemy in this dunya. And that’s EXACTLY why Allah advises us to observe patience when hit by calamity or stress because yeah! He already knows how tremendously powerful you can become when you take the positive approach towards every stressful circumstances.

In a typical stress response,your heart rate goes up, and your blood vessels constrict. And this is the reason why chronic stress is sometimes associated with cardiovascular diseases. Its not really healthy to be in this condition all the time. But in the study, when participants viewed their stress response as helpful, meaning the sweating the anxiety and the increased heart rate, when they viewed all of this as a positive response by believing the faster breathing is actually good. It means its getting more oxygen to your brain– believing all this– their blood vessels stayed relaxed. Amazing! Isn’t it?

Their heart was still pounding but now the cardiovascular profile is much healthier.

 Take a look at the normal and abnormal blood flow below. Once your artery is narrowed and blocked by plaque, you’re at a risk of heart attack. Your heart valves shouldn’t be blocked.

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And this is how your heart actually suffers when you’re under stress meaning Impatient. See the constricted blood vessels. But if you stay calm, patient and take things positive way, your blood vessels go relaxed. Even though they are still under stress but it’s not affecting them in a bad way. They are being strong. (I did some editing on this picture to explain it better)

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 That’s what new stress science has revealed that how you think about stress matters. It can literally make you experience a great biological change. A positive one born out of a negative state.

So next time when you’re faced with stress about anything, be positive. Be patient. Stress wants you to be patient and positive. Don’t shrug this act of “patience”  off thinking it’s the lame thing or the weak. Be cool. Also Be understanding towards oxytocin. Because Oxytocin helps you reach out for sunshine, for support, for things and activities that are positive and not rot alone in room. It paves way for Patience, and confirms how patience is a Practical Strategy to handle stress. Subhan Allah. Allah knew it all along that is why so much emphasize on patience in Quran.

Anas ibn Malik reported: I heard the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, say, “Allah said: If I afflict my servant in his two dear eyes and he remains patient, then he will be compensated with Paradise.” Sahih Bukhari 5329

I think I better consider becoming a Islamic Psychologist.

December 7, 2013

Ways to Stay Proactive for Single Muslimahs

by Khanum

“Our Lord, perfect for us our light and forgive us. Indeed, You are over all things competent.” [Qur’an: Chapter 66, Verse 8]

We all wish to marry and settle down with a comforting partner in our lives. Especially women. They begin to hope and dream of a husband usually during their teens. The budding desire to have half our deen completed as soon as possible is quite strong in women. Women want to have a spouse who practically makes her life incredible with each passing moon, and kids who make her home a heaven. Truly, which woman wouldn’t want a picture perfect family in her life?

Every female wants this dream. And with this desire, comes a pressure for many Muslim females i.e., getting married at a youthful age. That’s right. While men do not deal with this pressure, many women do. The younger, the better.

On the other hand this tradition often leads towards too many low self-esteem points for single sisters out there who haven’t found their other half yet and feel like they are either forever alone or forever destined to be single.

Soon, they begin to develop serious depression as they watch their friends and even younger peers get married. Many are even left feeling like their youth is wasted if they are not married while they are young.

This article is penned down as a gift and advice from one single sister for her other single sisters out there who are feeling down and need help to see the light of iman. I hope that you can gain wisdom from this and beat the obstacles to being productive, as Islam inspires us to do.

Identify the Negative Thoughts That’s Bringing You Down

The first and most foremost step is to realise the basic things that disturb you regarding your single marital status. Then using Hikmah, overcome that notion with a highly productive and halal thing in life to turn your sad days into blissful ones.

I have listed below major thoughts that come to mind and lure us towards negativity. Hunt them down, sisters – with antidotes! – before they hunt you down.

  1. What good I am if am not married in youthful age?
  2. Oh! What would become of me if I cross 25! I’ll get even older.
  3. How will I enjoy my life if I am not married soon?
  4. Oh no! What would my relatives say! She finished her studies but she’s still not married?!
  5. Why has Allah (glorified and exalted be He) put me through this?
  6. I have to hunt a husband soon or I’ll be too old to get married one day.
  7. Am I not pretty?
  8. I am a failure…
  9. Maybe I should give up the hijab!

And so on…

If none of these thoughts have ever crossed your mind, Masha Allah and Subhan Allah, congratulations on your firm belief in Allah (glorified and exalted be He) and His works.

But if any of these thoughts has crossed your mind, be alert sister! You are suffering from a state which paralyses your soul and halts productivity in beautiful Muslimahs – Muslimahs who probably can make a good difference in this world or someone’s life. Remember, shaytan’s greatest enemy is the soul that is most pleasing and dutiful to Allah (glorified and exalted be He), so he tries to dishearten you and spoil your life.

This is where you need to be wise and patient. For Allah (glorified and exalted be He) orders in Qur’an, “Say: “Nothing will happen to us except what Allah has decreed for us; He is our Protector”. And upon Allah let the believers rely.” [Qur’an Chapter 9: Verse 51].

6 Antidotes to Negative Thoughts & Sadness

  1. DEDICATE YOUR YOUTH TO ALLAH (GLORIFIED AND EXALTED BE HE) IF A HUSBAND HASN’T COME YET.

    The reasons for not being able to get married yet can vary, but just because marriage hasn’t come to you yet, it does not mean that your youth – or your whole life – is wasted, sister. If you regret losing time in waiting for a spouse, then turn the tables by dedicating your youthful single days to Allah’s cause and obedience.

    This way you won’t feel sad nor regret losing beautiful days. In fact, if Allah (glorified and exalted be He) is with you every day, what have you lost? After all, among the seven who would be provided shade under His shade on the day is the youth who grew up worshipping Allah (glorified and exalted be He). [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]

  2. START A NOBLE PROJECT

    You’re only young once. Would you really let it slip away while you mourn over being single, or would you rather do something productive for the sake of Allah (glorified and exalted be He)? Once again, turn the tables over and start an amazing project. Let this project be one that is beneficial for both your present time in the dunya and the akhirah.

    Maybe you could start on a noble project that you can pass on to your children and further generations as legacy. One idea is to produce a copy of handwritten Qur’an using beautiful calligraphy. I’m sure you can think of many more ideas!

  3. DON’T PAY HEED TO WHAT OTHERS SAY. ALLAH (GLORIFIED AND EXALTED BE HE) IS YOUR PROTECTOR AND CARETAKER.

    I know that family pressures tend to bubble up and make your life unhappy. In the words of someone I interviewed for this article, “It’s not easy with these destructive relatives; but I focus on what I have, not on what I do not have, and definitely not on others’ opinions about me. But you know how it is – their words do get to you in a painful way and you can’t help not getting affected by it. So allow yourself to be upset but pick yourself up and simply move on. That’s how I do it.”

    Remember that pain is just a state of mind. You can think your way out of everything, even pain. Try not to involve yourself in arguments, avoid the company of negative people, be wise and exit an uncomfortable situation politely. And if you feel burdened, pray, “Our Lord! Lay not upon us such a burden as You did lay upon those before us.” [Qur’an: Chapter 2, Verse 286]

  4. KNOW YOU’RE SPECIAL AND WERE BORN WITH AN AIM IN THIS WORLD.

    We are special, sisters! The special creation of Allah (glorified and exalted be He) with an aim in this world. There’s nothing wrong with your face or mind or hijab or your nose to be honest. Our life, though filled with not-so-pleasant moments sometimes, is a gift from Allah (glorified and exalted be He). We’ll always be tested. There will be tears but there will also be laughter and love. You have the right to live your life however you want it to. Marriage isn’t something you can force. Trust in Allah’s plan for you and be strong.

  5. TAKE THE EDUCATION ROUTE.

    Take advantage of the time and freedom you have and invest in education. It could be a language course or a degree. Don’t miss out on the time. Make Hazrat Aisha (may Allāh be pleased with her) your role model and pursue education with noble passion and zeal. She is considered one of the great female scholars in Islam. This is your opportunity to educate yourself in the best manner for the sake of becoming a good educated mother and a wife in the future, In sha Allah.

  6. KNOW THAT THERE HAS TO BE A REASON WHY ALLAH (GLORIFIED AND EXALTED BE HE) HAS CHOSEN THIS FOR YOU.

    To believe in Allah (glorified and exalted be He) requires total faith in His Actions and what he wills for you. Try to sit alone for a few minutes and talk to your soul. Then reason with your heart and inform your nafs that there is a reason why Allah (glorified and exalted be He) has chosen this situation for you.

    Maybe He desires that you fulfill a very important task in life for His sake, so He decrees that you stay single till you have achieved that aim? Or maybe He wants to reward you with something great and this ordeal is a test for you. So make istighfar as much as you can, and make dua to your Lord to grant you victory and peace and fill your heart with serenity and love. Then make lots of dua for your future spouse’s khair.

    And always say, “O My Lord, Whenever you wish for me to be married, let it be for good and happiness”.

Some Final Words of Comfort

If you wish to recite dua from Qur’an, take refuge in this verse: “And those who say,”Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.”” [Qur’an: Chapter 25, Verse 74]

If you fill your heart with love for Allah (glorified and exalted be He) and His Rasool (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him), I can guarantee that all these hurdles and troubling thoughts concerning marriage will perish and you will see yourself as a productive Muslimah who is making a difference in the world of Allah (glorified and exalted be He).

May Allah (glorified and exalted be He) be your Light, my Light, our Light. Ameen.

Written for Productive Muslim !

December 3, 2013

Life Above zero !

by Khanum

I want to eat chubby babies!

And fried fish.

And now You are shocked to read my opening words.

No?  Okay. Never mind. At least you’re bit curious what’s this post about so keep reading.

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Yesterday , I got published by big Productive Muslim. It was a good news after a good wait. But what humbled me more and made me write this post is the overwhelming response of the readers. Shared above is the screenshot of my blogstats. WordPress counted the increasing number of my visitors, a sudden spike in stats right after the article got publsihed! and even though am not Zen Habits, No big blog on the bloc but hey! Khanum is not some tandoor wali. This blog means alot to me so by just reading  “Your blog stats are BLOOMING”  khanum also bloomed!

Such sweet and nice notifications by wordpress are very rare. At least for me. Its 2nd time I got to know my blog is blooming though, don’t remember what was the reason last time it happened. I wonder when the day would come or if it would ever come when wordpress finally says “YOU’RE FRESHLY PRESSED Pagli! Take this freshly pressed badge and do hip hip hurray!”

Anyway , What I do remember is, the response was almost the same when I got published at Productive Muslim for the first time ever, alot of people left their nice comments on my blog here after reading it, but woaw! It just got better this with huge traffic. A BIG thanks to Productive Muslim and all those readers out there who read me and most importantly care enough to leave a comment. It means alot. I’m constantly receiving hits on my site , comments on here from those who loved the piece , some subscribed to the blog while 1 or 2 I guess even followed me on twitter. I saw the facebook page, wow, so many people considered it worth sharing which means the more people read it, they are reminded of Allah and I get to earn sawab. I just wanted to say I am humbled. I do not deserve this much attention but yet I get it  so Alhamdulillah , it makes me really feel blessed.  May Allah love you all and bless so much.

Now! Towards the second part of the post >>>>>

Let me introduce to you a new blogger on the block! Behold the beautiful screenshot.

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The owner of the blog is a friend.

PLUS I contributed my behad keemti pakoray there in a post which I wonder why I didnt blog here too. And furthermore, on the blogger’s request, I designed its header but its still in the processing phase. Check it out and let me know what you think about it. Should I keep it minimal and simple or add some colors or more black designing in it at the borders? I would really appreciate it if you guys go to LIFE ABOVE ZERO and check it out!

🙂 thanks once again. I shall now reply to my readers’ comments and hope to see them back on this bloc again. Even if you all dont visit regularly, just Remember me in duas. That’s all that matters in the end.

May Allah always be your Light, my Light, Our Light! Ameen. 🙂

September 19, 2013

Muslimah Contest 2013

by Khanum

Wow!! Now this is something new and fascinating! I woke up to read in my newspaper today about this unique event. It took place in Jakarta this year. In the words of one of the organizers who was banned from her job in TV 3 years ago because she refused to take off her head scarf,” This is Islam’s answer to Miss World”.

The Newly crowned winner of the Muslimah World 2013 Contest, Obabiyi Aisha of Nigeria.

The crowned winner Obabiyi Aisha of Nigeria.

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The All the contests were to participate wearing head scarves, few of them were sincerely covered from head to toe. As for their beauty they were judged on their thoughts towards Islam,way of life and how well they recited Quran. The winner won a huge sum of money along with tickets to Makkah and India.

Now the part where they were judged before a panel of scholars. I’m not sure if the judges were Males and that they were to do cat walk before male  judges. But if the things were not done that badly – minus the catwalk – I guess its a pretty good thing. Rest Allah knows best.

What do you think about Muslimah contest?

I do not own the pictures.

August 21, 2012

Yet more of Celestial Beauty… Eid Mubarak

by Khanum

Following are the shots of Moon during the month of Ramadan , captured time to time till the end of second ashra.

Ofcourse nothing can beat the moon sighting with a naked eye – but pictures taken with a natural hint of bokeh are perhaps I like the most. Last one being the favourite.

Eid Mubarak

July 26, 2012

Is your Ramadan going the right way, O’ Muslims?

by Khanum

Many a times what happens is, we wait for the holy month of Ramadan with such great fervour and zeal but when it actually arrives, 1day of passionate fasting happens and that’s pretty much it. The laziness after iftar and the sleepy eyes at Suhoor time takes over. I usually try to take a nap after zuhr but that 1 minute nap , we all know, is actually a big satanic movement! You too end up sleeping till maghrib then dont u ? 😀 dont hide now.

I have met many people in life who skip suhoor just for the sake of better sleep. And then I have met those people as well who have no interest in offering prayers what-so-ever.

“I am fasting yar! Pls don’t bother me. :@

I am fasting, ah , please massage my head. 😦

I am fasting, oh my God, how much time left? 😦

HOW DARE YOU!  ask me to do that work?, I am fasting Bro dont u know? :O

Uff I dont feel like walking or moving man,  😦 I am FASTING”

Yeah right! Fasting!!

That’s no fasting Dear Lazy Muslim. Please revise your Ramadan routine and put your heart and soul into this month. I know you may have your own level of spirituality you know, like I have my own where I dont like people poking in their noses  so you might have your own space with Lord ALmighty where you are given free hand at many things in life but listen human, you can’t use that as an excuse to skip the obligatory acts that includes offering 5 times prayers a day. Getting ?

I observed the routine of many people and I came across some pretty cool chart by Productive Muslim as well on how to form your Ramadan routine. As you can see below it’s a very basic yet complicated looking thing.

People who wanna do the “struggle” , keyword struggle to fast better would bother follow that but I am basically speaking of “lazy” people in my post, keyword lazy, who are at the first step of Fasting. So I made out a very easy chart for your understanding.

This Ramadan, Your Goal is One. TO PLEASE ALLAH ALMIGHTY ALONE.

How to Achieve this target ? Simply follow the basics.

1- Wake up for Suhoor with a happy and content heart. Do not be lazy.

2- Finish suhoor and Offer your 1st Daily obligatory prayer, Fajr. Do not be lazy.

3-Keep praying all your prayers through out day , Zuhr and Asr with the same determination and love for God that you had at Suhoor. Pls, do not be lazy.

4- Break your fast at Maghrib, don’t overdose yourself and pray the Maghrib and then Isha properly with witr *if you don’t wish to pray extra nafal during night*

Offer Taraweeh if you please, if you don’t want to do that just go to bed when you please and offer the same cycle again.

Congratulations! You are now a productive Muslim headed in the right direction this Ramadan!

Apart from this please keep in mind, there are some etiquettes of living as a Muslim that get high during the holy month of Ramadan. Meaning, we are expected to behave more good during this month. Lying, backbitting, stabbing, murdering, saying evil, doing evil, hearing evil all this must be STOPPED! I shall speak on this in detail in another post INsha Allah, for now, just do yourself a favor 🙂 be good and have a Happy Ramadan.

Praying isn’t hard for a Muslim. Its just a prayer, Muslim. If you seem to run away from the number of Rakat then don’t panic, just offer the farz i.e., obligatory prayer units and there you go. Allah will Love you so much for it. 🙂

I remember in childhood, we used to have this fantasy that Allah has a phone number and the phone number is 24434! If you notice, its the obligatory prayer units number for each prayer, 2 for Fajr, 4 for Zuhr, 4 for Aser then 3 for Maghrib and 4 for Isha.  Simple and easy. How often do u dial it? Daily?

And if you wish to enhance your your routine further, take a step ahead. Read Quran as much as you can., May it be a single surah or few verses of the Quran even on your smartphone. If you make a routine a determination that after Fajr or before going to bed you will read atleast 5 verses of Quran daily, trust me you’ll soon be reading more than that and more frequently. And Subhan Allah, the ajar the immense immense ajar for that deed is beyond our measures : )

So stead fast, fasten your seat belts and get going! You have an important appointment with Allah each day this month  or perhaps, throughout the year if you really ponder. And lastly pray as much as you can. Sincere pious Dua is your ticket out from the fitnah of this world and the akhirah!

Oh you who believe! Fasting is prescribed to you as it was prescribed to those before you, that you many learn piety and righteousness” (Quran, 2:183)

Assalam o alaikum!