Posts tagged ‘Opinion’

May 14, 2011

“Something Wonderful”

by Khanum

“Will you kindly take me seriously?”

He sobered instantly at her imperious tone. “I’m going to marry you,” he said coolly, “that’s serious enough.”

“Do you realise,” she said with a winsome smile as she titled her head to the side, “that you become positively grim when you say the word ‘marry’?”

When he said nothing, she laid her hand on his sleeve, as if he was her friend, and gazed into his unfathomable grey eyes, seeing the cynicism lurking in their depths. “I don’t mean to pry, but are you happy with life –with your life, I mean?”

He looked irritated by her question, but he answered it.

“Not particularly.”

“There you see! We would never suit. You’re disenchated with life, but I’m not!.” the quiet inner joy, the courage and indomitable spirit he had sensed in her the night they had met, was in her voice now as she lifted her face to the blue sky her entire being radiant with optimism, innocence and hope. “I love life, even when bad things happen to me. I can’t stop loving it.”

Transfixed, he stared at her as she stood against a backdrop of vibrant roses and distant green hills– “Every season of the year comes with a promise that something wonderful is going to happen to me someday. In winter, the promise comes with the smell of snow in the air. In summer, I hear it in the boom of thunder and the lightening that streaks across the sky in blue flashes. Most of all, I feel it now, in springtime, when everything is green and black–”


“Yes, black–you know, like tree trunks when they’re wet, and freshly tilled fields that smell like–” she inhaled, trying to recall the exact scent.

“Dirt”, He provided unromantically.

She dropped her gaze from the heavens and looked at him. “You think me foolish,” she sighed. Stiffening her spine and ignoring the sharp stab of longing she felt for him, she said with calm dignity, “We cannot possibly wed.”

His dark eyebrows drew together over incredulous grey eyes. “You’ve decided that, merely because I don’t happen to think wet dirt smells like perfume?”

“You haven’t understood a word I have said,” She said desperately. “the fact of the matter is that if I marry you, you’ll make me as unhappy as you are–and if you make me unhappy, I’ll undoubtedly retaliate by making you unhappy, and in few years, we’ll both be as unhappy as ……”


Excerpt from a novel, I read 6 years ago.


It was a time when I was still a teenager. World was black and white to me. Things were always either right or wrong, It’s a age when we are  unaware of the oblivious choices and shades. Twists, and turns of faith & the most basic need of adult hours…Compromise! with complete faith in His Art.

The lines in hope of “something wonderful” have always been my favorite ones. The only reason they have managed to survive there in my mind only because: I hope as she hopes. But What could possibly drive me to write a post on it? the answer is my cousin-brother’s marriage.

At the time when he got married, I was still studying in school. My mind wasn’t a mind of an adult as it is now. It was innocent and really–straight like a line. Which is why i never understood why he and his wife never looked ridiculously in love after marriage. Or why they had issues – arguements – while they were simply “MARRIED”?

Years passed, the number of their kids increased and so as their fights.

Today they have 3 brat children. They have the eyes of their mothers, huge and pretty…the eyes my brother used to say , are like cow. Long ago, when he said that, perhaps there was a hint of annoyance in it. But not today.

“Something Wonderful” happened for both of them. “Something wonderful” that binded them together like honey is to bee.

The husband who was so thrilled and relaxed over getting a job in Dubai few months back– finally flew back to his home last month — to his wife — to his children — leaving every dime he earned in a foreign land full of promises. All this, Just to have the nearness of the one he had but never realized what she meant. And the wife, my sister-in-law , is as madly in love with him now as a wife is supposed to be in every hour of life.

Seeing them this insanely in love for the first time and that too after years of marriage is something so wonderful for all of us, that I wonder how wonderful it would be for them in reality? Are they over their differences? Have they decided to leave their prejudices and pride behind for the love of each other? And what do we know, what love is? How love is anyway?

Going through that paragraph once again after years of acquaintance with it, I noticed something wonderful in its own unique way for the first time. It’s amazing how my outlook on this conversation entirely changed. It’s like a work of art. New read. New Message.

Something wonderful does happen. No matter you’re exception or Rule. Rich or poor, Smart or dumb. Wonder is there in every second in every hour. But believing in greater miracles in your life requires a miracle within you utmost.

I’ve listed out certain points that may help all of you out there to come to better terms with your spouse. Again, let me mention I’m not an expert on halal relationships. I just happen to be a keen observer of events and people around me.  And I’ve learned, This world is a perfect place to learn about Imperfection.

Once we set goals for ourselves, we set a mind frame to like certain people based on their certain qualities. One error in someone can simply turn our good thinking mode off towards that person. But ask yourself. Is this a wise-thing-to-do?

Perfection is meant only for Allah. The Creator of the creation. Nothing after Him, is perfect in the true sense. Apply this word to the human system, “perfection” only “under limited” resources would be acquired. So whatever perfection is there offered to you by someone, are you willing to let it go , slip it away from your hands just like that? just because of some ‘humanly’ flaws?

Please, don’t! Cause you never know,  you’re praying to be with a perfect person who will lead you home, But in reality,  you’re destined to guide a misguided person to become a better person and make the most honest home on earth.

That calls for finding a miracle within you, First and utmost.

So Make du’a, Say prayers for a God fearing and caring spouse after every compulsory prayer. And then , have the heart to pray that if  you end up with a opposite character unlike the one  you wanted, then in that situation May He  makes you a wonderful guide and a miracle for that person to sober up and change.

February 3, 2011

Barking Dogs never bite!

by Khanum



Whenever a barking dog gives me a fright, my mother’s words always comfort me: “Don’t be scared darling! Barking dogs never bite”.  So even today she said to me the same thing. However this time, for nearly half an hour, I tried to figure out the reason behind it. I was troubled with the notion. How come they cannot bite?  So like a keen student studying her subject of worry, I concentrated hard on my subject. There is probably some health reason. But since, even they too have doctors and they can be treated at hospitals for their illness so this idea is absurd. I went through the whole encyclopedia on dogs but nowhere could I find the answer to my question. Finally, I went for “Public survey” and it was conducted at my own University. WOAALA!!! Where there is a will, there is always a way.  My survey was a success and the results were beyond my expectations. I was enlightened with some mind blowing facts. Though I did not get the reason of their behavior but whatever the information I got, helped me understand a dog’s nature, its temperament and moral fiber. And I finally understood, what is meant by the saying, “barking dogs never bite”.  You see! Dogs belong to different races. Every race is noteworthy. The dogs belonging to the finest race are very faithful. Their actions reflect their loyal nature. For they not only bark but also bite to defend the honor of their masters. We recognize them as the natural guard dogs. Such was the dog of the People of the cave. For three hundred years, the loyal dog remained with his masters and sat at the gate, silently. Today, however, there is one particular extraterrestrial race that is worth mentioning. It is without a shred of doubt the most truly wicked race. I name them (on public demand) as the race of corrupt Politicians. Who: establish commonness among themselves by sticking to their policy of “never ending barking”. According to public opinion they are increasing day by day in Third World Countries but in Pakistan, this class of barking dogs has emerged as a serious problem and continues to prevail as a threat. They even appear on TV. Honestly speaking, they are quite appealing to criticize. We see them in many colors, in many masks. The striking feature of their being is that unlike loyal dogs, they lack morality. They walk on two legs, dine at 5 stars, and cover themselves with clothes and dress like gentlemen. Some of them are bald while others dye hair for screen beauty. Nevertheless, their so low doggy manners can still be recognized. Whenever we accept them for a little good, their actions provide evidence of their disloyalty. They are humans’ alleged best friends. Who, when needed never help. Ironically speaking, they are the leaders. Who, when looked-for never lead. But still the dilemma remains. Why do barking dogs never bite?  They are indisputably not made in China nor are they truly devoted “peacemakers”. Whatever the explanation could be, whether medical, political, social or personal. I guess it’s in their own interesst, as barking doesn’t cost them a penny, but biting someone can really make them to pay. And Of course we, the public know it well, who pays and who flees away . But what if some of the dogs get dangerous and start biting? Serious injury includes broken bones, severe cuts, suicides, load shedding and  economic failure. What should you do if you are faced with such a dog? My advice; Don`t run – stand still, always remember dog is not a human – he is a dog and will think and behave like a dog, so treat him like a dog.

February 3, 2011

Hello world!

by Khanum

So Here  I am, finally! after days and days of thinking and debating with myself whether I should go for a blog or  nothing, Here I landed!

The good news is, I have a very strong opening to my blog. I know what I just want to say. And, well here comes the bad part! It would be like shouting out loud in a cyber world with absolutely no assurance, that my genesis (and sometimes as you will experience my frustration) would be Heard! But no worries! as long as word press is giving me freedom to write , I WILL WRITE!

Acha tow where was I ? Ah yes, My strong opening word!

TO HELL WITH YOU ALL (Politicians) !!!! From Bush to Zardari. and why am I saying this here?


Because nobody wouldn’t let me say it in the national newspaper in clear plain words. 😀 In case you are wondering who the hell is this person? Male or female, you can find out later. Let’s focus on the main details.

I am a very talented, and Mind you, very multi-talented  but a crushed POST GRAD citizen of  a banana republic.. And as you will read and grow with me in the coming days, You’ll find out why I said ‘Talented’ and ‘crushed’ at the same time.

If I had started this blog earlier, back in july last year I would have probably given it the title of DEPRESSIONS AND CONFESSIONS OF A POST GRAD CITIZEN but alot of things have changed since then. I have changed since then. Now the depressions are converted into aggressive actions. (and I swear to God, I haven’t murdered anyone or looted a bank like american kids do in movies. In case FBI is monitoring this blog) so now the bottom line is.

I have decided to go with a BAckup plan.

And that is,…….

To lash every politician living on earth. 😀

AndWAIT!  don’t panic. No need to even call FBI. (Though I know they must be monitoring this paragraph as well ) Let me explain first!

It is just a dream of mine. 🙂 To personally meet each one of them rascals and give them a good beating on their suited bottom. 🙂 See! no drone attacks involved. Did I say drone attacks ? No! because I am an educated and sane person.

Ah but such a dream! a dream shared with billions all over the world. Until I become the President myself  of My beloved and  beautiful and tired-of-Zardari-Reign Country (now you know where I live ;))I can’t possible bring revolution to the world and fulfill my dream of starting ‘Let’s start lashing Bush and more George Bushes to come club’.

So the blog is the only possible way of letting the world know Why I say What I feel and why I feel what I say.

So the brand new title is, though I almost pyook every time I say it’s frist word, I must continue with it.

“ZARDARI, USA, and other Disasters in my Fabulous Life’



Being a citizen of Pakistan is really no pain. Honestly, but what pains and puts strain on the delicate shoulders of its citizens is Mr. Zardari a.k.a Tarkari and Politicians just like him.

Now before I started the blog I was asking myself questions like, what’s there that I kan write to  the world about my country about my people and not have them repelled. Cause you see, being a Pakistani ultimately gives you this super fantastic spot of attention upon which every eye of the world is ogling. BBC, CNN, FOX NEWS, ALJAZEERAH and blah blah blah. Every major news channel just ripping you apart the moment something happens in my land. but you know, every coin has two sides. Every picture has two sides. Every human have two sides. Just like the universe. Remember, Parallel  universe exists ? So why only ogle at one picture?

There’s so much more to it. So much more. And I may not be the centre of every blogger’s attention at this platform, this wordpress! yes! This much I kan tell. This wordpress will surely remember me as a blogger who blogged for not only its people but for the world–for them to know –and become better in judgement!

Stay tuned!