Bismillah Ar Rahman Ar Raheem
April, 2022.
Odyssey
Are human beings like different types of flowers?
With their individual and unique blooming frequency.
Someone is a rose, that often blooms. But also, dies.
Some like the rare ones, blooming only once a year in the spring.
And some, taking years and years and years to become comfortable with the world within and without,
And then blossom, like no other.
Are human beings like the trees?
Some tall, some thick, some so very small
and under the shadow of the giant ones..
Or are people, like the sky..
Forever the same. But Sun and moon, keep changing it’s color.
Or are you and I like the earth. The very same earth we are made up of.
Forever humble, forever moving, and experiencing many seasons.
Cold. Extreme cold.
Spring, beautiful spring.
Summer. Harsh summer.
Autumn, slightly blue.
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Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh everyone,
It’s been awhile. In fact, years. It took me years to write again. SubhanAllah, life has been wonderful and good. But I am like this. And I dislike this about myself now. If I get one emotional wound, I go for years to hibernate and heal from it. But I hope whoever is reading this, is in the best state of emaan, no matter the circumstances. happy, confusing or sad. And doesn’t make the same mistake as I did – grieving while thinking you are fine, and hiding from the world because of those negative feelings.
So What happened.
I found my purpose and threw myself into studies. I was on cloud 9 because I had finally embraced my nature. I had finally decided to not waste my life anymore, and study what matters. So Alhamdulillah, I started madrassa. And then, when you study Qur’an and get serious about things, I guess you get tested about the knowledge. I had to say goodbye to someone really close to me. It was July, 2019.
I have never went public on this here. I have never grieved this with any of my friends. I have never put any statuses when I was going through the difficult times while I was losing someone, bit by bit, day by day, as I ran into and out of the hospital for nearly a month. I grieved there with humans who lost their loved ones before I lost mine. Every time someone passed away, I never thought once that my loved could die, too.
And then the time came for my loved one to go. I think, I grew a lot that day.. I grew a lot in a way I cannot explain over the coming years, when I had to say goodbye. It is like surrendering to God.
I bathed her with others, and shrouded her, without losing myself. It was as if God had strengthened my heart. And then, because we are humans, I broke down like a child. SubhanAllah.. this human heart. I learned Allah swt is giving me strength in this year.
What happened then. I experienced Allah’s presence in every hardship I experienced after it.
Now when I reflect about it, it is like He gave me the gift of seeking knowledge and finding my strength in God, only to make me stronger for what was to come: He was about to take someone I loved, back. And Allah is Allah, He didn’t leave me empty handed. I don’t think I would have been able to cope with this loss, If I hadn’t been made some wiser and emotionally stronger by Allah swt. And then growth continued. What happened when that person passed away, totally changed the family landscape.
Once again, there was only God who showed up.
I think, I am still deeply grieving, for I have not forgotten how some people disappointed me after the funeral. And I don’t know where did these years of my life go when I really sit down to measure them. I continued my studies. But I also gave them away to grief and acute fear.
I have never experienced such intense growth before where I felt Allah is walking with me every step of the way like I did in past few years. It is exactly like you walk one step closer to God, and Allah comes to you running. Well.. even when you are too broken to walk towards Him, He has the power to hold your hand and make you feel His presence. Like He is standing so close you. Like He is not unknown. He is very much here, with you and you are breathing close to Him.
You will experience a time in your life, where you would feel, all the things you wanted from a human, Allah swt is the one providing you that. Emotional strength. Emotional understanding. Fighting with your enemies. Standing up in front of your enemies. All of these more. I found Him so close. And so differently this time. It is as if, each event is there only to bring you closer to Him.
I have never understood this much Qur’an as I did in these years. I have never felt the wisdom behind certain ayahs or the signs in Qur’an like I did through these life experiences. It is like, Qur’an comes to life when you turn to it for answers about why this is happening in your life and for what reason.
And that’s amazing..
Human heart, is nothing but a place where Allah dwells, and it blooms. And when He leaves that heart, it dies a slow death and withers like a dried flower.. without the person knowing.. May Allah swt save us from that death.
Take care of your hearts. Take care of yourselves. And if you are ever bruised, don’t grieve or hide for long, like me. Taking weeks is fine. But taking years, is making yourself more zakhmi. Whatever it is, tell Allah swt about it. Do something about it, gracefully. But don’t grieve, in your mind only. Speak.
Allah swt, bi’iznillah and with His Mercy, can mend anything.